Getting to the point where I am living my best life is something that’s been years in the making. The good thing about being 40, is that I’ve had many years of learning tough lessons. And they have all made me realize what really matters. What makes me happy and what was actually making me more miserable than I wanted to admit. Lessons that I will take with me into this next chapter of my life to make sure I am living my best life and being truly happy. Turning 40 is actually pretty awesome!
Honestly, being old is only a state of mind.
There are a lot of things I am glad I have come to terms with and lessons learned over the past decade. I am loving turning 40 and happy that I get to take this wisdom with me through the next phase of my life. The first 40 years of childhood are the hardest. Here’s to the next 40 being a blast!
Here are 25 lessons learned to make sure that you are living your best life!
♥ Your happiness is up to you, not others.
Plain and simple. Other’s can only add to your happiness. And if you need to be reminded about what joy is, watch children play.
♥ Accept responsibility when you are wrong.
Realize there is no defeat in saying you’re sorry.
♥ Forgiveness is for you and not for anyone else.
Holding grudges and anger will cause stress you don’t need and will rob you of your own happiness in the end.
♥ Let go of expectations!
It’s no good for you or the people in your life. Sometimes the unexpected is much better!
♥ There is more beauty in imperfection.
You’re not perfect, and that’s OK. Embrace your quirks and realize that’s what makes you the beautiful mess that you are. Embrace it!
♥ There is no book of guidelines to live by to be the perfect mom.
We all make mistakes, and parenting is a learn as you go job. Love your kids with all you have and as long as they think you are amazing, who cares what anyone else thinks. Don’t strive for perfection, strive to be present.
♥ Change is inevitable.
Learn to embrace it and love it!
♥ Don’t spend a moment of your life living out the expectations of others.
YOUR story, YOUR journey.
♥ With friends, quality over quantity is the best.
Not all friends will stay in your life forever. Treasure the ones that do stay for the long haul. Sometimes you will be the one to leave, and that’s ok too. Toxic friendships and relationships aren’t worth it in the end.
♥ Don’t let fear hold you back.
Face that sh** head on! Use your fear to push you harder.
♥ Sometimes you’ll win.
And those times that you don’t, those will be the essential lessons to hold on to in life.
♥ Music really is the cure for a bad mood.
Add in some dancing around the house while doing mundane chores, and you’ve turned a bad day into a good one.
♥ Life is too short to put up with BS.
Don’t waste a moment worrying about what others will think of you or comparing yourself to others. Always be your authentic self, quirks and all!
♥ “Things” won’t make you happy.
What will make you happy, are experiences that give you memories to look back on and smile about.
♥ Never compromise yourself or change who you are to make people like you.
Not everyone will like you, don’t waste your time worrying about why. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, and I’m OK with that.
♥ Never apologize for something you didn’t do.
And don’t let anyone make you feel like you should have to.
♥ Your feelings, emotions, and thoughts shape your reality.
These are things that are all under YOUR control.
♥ You can only change yourself.
You can’t change others.
♥ You aren’t your thoughts and feelings.
Experience them and then move on. Don’t live in them.
♥ Self-care isn’t indulgent and selfish.
It is a necessity. Never neglect taking care of yourself to take care of everyone else around you. You will get burnt out easily, and that is no good for anyone around you.
♥ Your past does not define you, and it’s a waste of time to live there.
Accept & forgive, then move on.
♥ Live for today!
You never know how short life can be, so stop saving that bottle of wine for a special occasion. Today is pretty damn special!
♥ Take care of yourself now, and life will be much sweeter.
Move every day and cut down on processed foods and refined sugar. Once you hit 40, losing weight and keeping it off gets harder and harder.
♥ Don’t work out to get skinny like the women on magazine covers.
There’s a lot of Photoshop that goes into those “perfect” photos. Workout to be healthy, strong and to feel good about yourself. Don’t over stress yourself trying to get that elusive thigh gap that others make you feel like to NEED to have. Do I have a thing gap? Nope, but there’s a lot of strength in Thunder & Lightning!
♥ Don’t judge a book by its cover.
That girl you saw sitting quietly and not talking much may be shy and reserved, not a snob like you assumed. Take the time to start up a conversation to try to bring her out of her shell. She may just be shy at first and crazy fun when she warms up to you. How do I know? I’m that quiet girl and a lot of people do mistake me for just being a bi***. 🙂
And there it is, 25 simple ways I am living my best life. It’s all the little things that will make the biggest difference. Knowing when to let go will help lift a huge weight off your shoulders and allow you to be happy. What are the best lessons for being happy that life has taught you?